It's Better To Be Alone Than....

Judie · 21-08-2003, 19:23

I rather like these armchair philosophies:

It Is Better To Be Alone, Than In The Wrong Company

Tell me who your best friends are, and I will tell you who you are. If you run with wolves, you will learn how to howl. But, if you associate with eagles, you will learn how to soar to great heights.

"A mirror reflects a man's face, but what he is really like is shown by the kind of friends he chooses." The simple but true fact of life is that you become like those with whom you closely associate - for the good and the bad.

The less you associate with some people, the more your life will improve. Any time you tolerate mediocrity in others, it increases your mediocrity. An important attribute in successful people is their impatience with negative thinking and negative acting people.

As you grow, your associates will change. Some of your friends will not want you to go on. They will want you to stay where they are. Friends that don't help you climb, will want you to crawl. Your friends will stretch your vision or choke your dream. Those that don't increase you, will eventually decrease you.

Consider this:

Never receive counsel from unproductive people. Never discuss your problems with someone incapable of contributing to the solution, because those who never succeed themselves are always first to tell you how.

Not everyone has a right to speak into your life. You are certain to get the worst of the bargain when you exchange ideas with the wrong person. Don't follow anyone who's not going anywhere. With some people you spend an evening: with others you invest it.

Be careful where you stop to inquire for directions along the road of life. Wise is the person who fortifies his life with the right friendships.

myeerah · 21-08-2003, 19:45

On the surface that sounds nice, but I've found people that live by that philosophy don't really have friends, they have assets. Personally, I'd rather have a friend. Someone I can laugh with, or cry with, is immensely more valuable than someone who can advance my career.

Judie · 21-08-2003, 21:07

This philosophy doesn't cover every aspect of life and it wasn't intended to do so. No, it doesn't say that you should only stick with those that can advance your career, but that you should be with those who are not negative and try to drag you down...and this is good advice for any instance, not just a business perspective.

I got this from my Dad, by the way, who never taught us to put material worth above people. He came across it and passed it on. I did learn over the years, that the people you choose to be with can either lift you up or drag you down (think of this in life in general, and not building one's career).

Who doesn't enjoy being with people we care about, and who we can laugh and have fun with. These short little sentences don't exclude that. When I read these, I saw something there to think about

myeerah · 21-08-2003, 22:17

Sorry, I didn't mean for that to sound as nasty as it did. I've just had too many people try to push the whole idea of picking your friends to suit your needs.

Nobody here is going to make my professional life advance. . . but who cares? I love you all, anyway.

Ellen · 23-08-2003, 08:18

to both.

*ponders deeply* whom else BUT a real friend can tell you, you don't have to go along with wolfs and "dares" to point out there are eagles too?
Real friends don't hide behind unrealities nor lie nor spare you their ponits of view. One does not have to agree all the time either (

although it's more likely you do cuz.. what made you friends in the first place?) Takes courage to be a real friend to a friend is what I am saying; so no, you don't pick them to suit your needs; you care about the ones you want to care about.
I am most likely

sorry..

Fred N · 24-08-2003, 04:00

I don't like the philosophies. They're too elitistic for my taste

Monterra · 24-08-2003, 08:56

I'll second that.

Fred N · 24-10-2006, 15:12

Bumping a three year old thread?

Just because this guy reminded me of it.

Dianne · 30-10-2006, 07:17

Impossible is Nothing...

First...it's a great philosophy...and hey how often in life have we all had these impossible dreams...but taken one small step at a time perhaps it's not so impossible after all?

You dedicate yourself...you learn...you improvise...you take detours with one goal in mind...and suddenly you have attained what only days...weeks...months...or even years ago was just a wonderful daydream/fantasy in your mind?

PS...really enjoyed him learning to dance...

Geron · 30-10-2006, 15:37

Sorry, but I had to laugh listening and watching to that guy. People trying to sell this kind of philosophy usually forget to mention that Real Life® doesn't give a nickel about what you try to achieve, and peppers you with plenty of niggly little concerns that make you spend your time mostly on trying to overcome them first...and make you tired enough from that alone so you don't want to bother with anything else anymore.

And a lot of those concerns only go away if you throw plenty of money at them. So the basic message is "Be rich, then you can afford to ignore most of the basic problems real life throws at you, and THEN you can concentrate on improving yourself in plenty of disciplines." Yay...really useful for the everyday person.

Apart from some of the more silly messages in that video...like that "a healthy body harbors a healthy mind" stuff that simply is out of fashion since it went down with the Romans.

There have been plenty of brilliant minds that were complete nulls on the track field, and even more perfect athletes that shouldn't be allowed to open their mouth for an interview. Both sides of the body need a LOT of exercise to function at an excellent level..even those with a lot of talent need that. Stephen Hawking didn't become such a creative genius by lifting weights or doing martial arts. If you spend hours of a day learning and sharpening your mind, you simply don't HAVE that much time left, between eating and sleeping, to pimp your body as well. Sad truth of life...there are only 24 hours in one day, and 8 of them are usually taken up by sleep already.

And to be honest, he made me laugh when he talked about that "when you dance, DANCE" thing, and in the same movie he shows how easy it is to lift 800 pounds on the bench...if you have two strong guys helping you. I don't know that guy, and maybe he is a likeable person, in person, but the video is simply not to be taken seriously..especially not if you are looking for some advice on how to live your life.

21-08-2003, 19:23	#1
Judie CHANTILLY Join Date: Jan 2001 Location: Ohio Posts: 1,134	It's Better To Be Alone Than.... I rather like these armchair philosophies: It Is Better To Be Alone, Than In The Wrong Company Tell me who your best friends are, and I will tell you who you are. If you run with wolves, you will learn how to howl. But, if you associate with eagles, you will learn how to soar to great heights. "A mirror reflects a man's face, but what he is really like is shown by the kind of friends he chooses." The simple but true fact of life is that you become like those with whom you closely associate - for the good and the bad. The less you associate with some people, the more your life will improve. Any time you tolerate mediocrity in others, it increases your mediocrity. An important attribute in successful people is their impatience with negative thinking and negative acting people. As you grow, your associates will change. Some of your friends will not want you to go on. They will want you to stay where they are. Friends that don't help you climb, will want you to crawl. Your friends will stretch your vision or choke your dream. Those that don't increase you, will eventually decrease you. Consider this: Never receive counsel from unproductive people. Never discuss your problems with someone incapable of contributing to the solution, because those who never succeed themselves are always first to tell you how. Not everyone has a right to speak into your life. You are certain to get the worst of the bargain when you exchange ideas with the wrong person. Don't follow anyone who's not going anywhere. With some people you spend an evening: with others you invest it. Be careful where you stop to inquire for directions along the road of life. Wise is the person who fortifies his life with the right friendships. __________________ Chantilly

21-08-2003, 19:45	#2
myeerah Peekaboo! Join Date: Jun 2001 Posts: 4,123	On the surface that sounds nice, but I've found people that live by that philosophy don't really have friends, they have assets. Personally, I'd rather have a friend. Someone I can laugh with, or cry with, is immensely more valuable than someone who can advance my career. __________________ See what I'm reading. See what I'm writing.

21-08-2003, 21:07	#3
Judie CHANTILLY Join Date: Jan 2001 Location: Ohio Posts: 1,134	This philosophy doesn't cover every aspect of life and it wasn't intended to do so. No, it doesn't say that you should only stick with those that can advance your career, but that you should be with those who are not negative and try to drag you down...and this is good advice for any instance, not just a business perspective. I got this from my Dad, by the way, who never taught us to put material worth above people. He came across it and passed it on. I did learn over the years, that the people you choose to be with can either lift you up or drag you down (think of this in life in general, and not building one's career). Who doesn't enjoy being with people we care about, and who we can laugh and have fun with. These short little sentences don't exclude that. When I read these, I saw something there to think about __________________ Chantilly

21-08-2003, 22:17	#4
myeerah Peekaboo! Join Date: Jun 2001 Posts: 4,123	Sorry, I didn't mean for that to sound as nasty as it did. I've just had too many people try to push the whole idea of picking your friends to suit your needs. Nobody here is going to make my professional life advance. . . but who cares? I love you all, anyway. __________________ See what I'm reading. See what I'm writing.

23-08-2003, 08:18	#5
Ellen Miss Moneypenny Join Date: May 2001 Location: Zundert, Netherlands. Posts: 4,760	to both. ponders deeply whom else BUT a real friend can tell you, you don't have to go along with wolfs and "dares" to point out there are eagles too? Real friends don't hide behind unrealities nor lie nor spare you their ponits of view. One does not have to agree all the time either ( although it's more likely you do cuz.. what made you friends in the first place?) Takes courage to be a real friend to a friend is what I am saying; so no, you don't pick them to suit your needs; you care about the ones you want to care about. I am most likely sorry.. __________________ No sane mortal is truly free, because true freedom is so terrible that only the mad or the divine can face it with open eyes. It overwhelms the soul, very much like the state described as Vonallesvolkommenunverstandlichdasdaskeit.

24-08-2003, 04:00	#6
Fred N GK Addict Join Date: Feb 2001 Location: Sweden Posts: 4,491	I don't like the philosophies. They're too elitistic for my taste __________________ "We're pimps and killers, but in a philanthropic way. Can I go now?" - Boyd Langston, Dollhouse (A Spy in the House of Love)

24-08-2003, 08:56	#7
Monterra bang Join Date: Sep 2001 Location: Hyvinkää, Finland Posts: 2,262	I'll second that. __________________ Appreciation of the Finer Things in Life I am my own God. God walking earth. - Tom S. Englund[x] [00:24]Johan: Sizzling Hot Comps XXX

24-10-2006, 15:12	#8
Fred N GK Addict Join Date: Feb 2001 Location: Sweden Posts: 4,491	Bumping a three year old thread? Just because this guy reminded me of it.

30-10-2006, 07:17	#9
Dianne Bears love Ice Cream too! Join Date: Jan 2001 Location: North Country Posts: 6,337	Impossible is Nothing... First...it's a great philosophy...and hey how often in life have we all had these impossible dreams...but taken one small step at a time perhaps it's not so impossible after all? You dedicate yourself...you learn...you improvise...you take detours with one goal in mind...and suddenly you have attained what only days...weeks...months...or even years ago was just a wonderful daydream/fantasy in your mind? PS...really enjoyed him learning to dance... __________________ Ice Cream makes EVERYTHING better

30-10-2006, 15:37	#10
Geron Game Master Join Date: Jan 2001 Location: Mainz - Germany Posts: 5,212	Sorry, but I had to laugh listening and watching to that guy. People trying to sell this kind of philosophy usually forget to mention that Real Life® doesn't give a nickel about what you try to achieve, and peppers you with plenty of niggly little concerns that make you spend your time mostly on trying to overcome them first...and make you tired enough from that alone so you don't want to bother with anything else anymore. And a lot of those concerns only go away if you throw plenty of money at them. So the basic message is "Be rich, then you can afford to ignore most of the basic problems real life throws at you, and THEN you can concentrate on improving yourself in plenty of disciplines." Yay...really useful for the everyday person. Apart from some of the more silly messages in that video...like that "a healthy body harbors a healthy mind" stuff that simply is out of fashion since it went down with the Romans. There have been plenty of brilliant minds that were complete nulls on the track field, and even more perfect athletes that shouldn't be allowed to open their mouth for an interview. Both sides of the body need a LOT of exercise to function at an excellent level..even those with a lot of talent need that. Stephen Hawking didn't become such a creative genius by lifting weights or doing martial arts. If you spend hours of a day learning and sharpening your mind, you simply don't HAVE that much time left, between eating and sleeping, to pimp your body as well. Sad truth of life...there are only 24 hours in one day, and 8 of them are usually taken up by sleep already. And to be honest, he made me laugh when he talked about that "when you dance, DANCE" thing, and in the same movie he shows how easy it is to lift 800 pounds on the bench...if you have two strong guys helping you. I don't know that guy, and maybe he is a likeable person, in person, but the video is simply not to be taken seriously..especially not if you are looking for some advice on how to live your life. __________________ The third principle of partying life is the capacity for self-sacrifice; the unconscious ability to override evolution and self-preservation for a coctail, a bag of crisps, a toblerone. - Drool of Minibar "I do not seek to know all the answers, but to understand the questions." - Quai-Chang Caine Superstition is like a magnet. It pulls you in the direction of your belief." - Master Po Time is a river. Life is a journey. The door is ajar.

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